Dating Ideas

Where To Date Your Partner All Over Again, According To Your Significant Other’s Myers-Briggs Personality Type

Where To Date Your Partner All Over Again, According To Your Significant Other’s Myers-Briggs Personality Type

If you’ve run into a dating rut with your significant other, the key to getting out of it might just be understanding their personality type. Find your partner’s Myers-Briggs type in this guide and treat them to a date they’ll love.

The Best Things To Do In Toronto

Whether you are thinking about what to do on your time off with the kids or having an adult escape, the city of Toronto has many wonderful options. 

What is a city, anyway?  Dictionary.com defines it as a large or important town.  It may be thought of as a collection of people, minds, cultures, and landmarks.  The word ‘agora’ is Greek for a gathering place for the exchange of ideas among the free-born as well as of goods.   Geoffrey West, a physicist who has studied cities, describes a city as a magnet that draws people in; a living organism, in this video for The Atlantic.

This city -- what pulls you in?  What makes you want to stay and experience it fully? 

For Torontonians -- What would it be like to see your city with fresh eyes, as if you are visiting for the first time?  For out-of-towners  -- I invite you to experience a city full of diversity, intellect, compassion, culture, beauty, arts, sports, great food, entertainment, and spectacular views!

Here is my list of Toronto favourites, complete with hyperlinks to take you to more information.  For further information visit the Tourism Toronto website and watch the new promotional video below that is garnering a lot of attention.  Please share your favourites in the comments section and let’s celebrate Toronto!  

Classically Good Things to Do

Neighbourhoods that Built this City

  • Once the hippie district, Yorkville is the destination of choice for stars and stargazers – plenty of fine dining, shopping, and gallery options here!

  • King West has a nice selection of trendy dining, cocktail bars and upscale spas

  • Feeling like a lazy stroll or a volleyball game? Go to The Beach!

  • Greektown is alive with Mediterranean tastes…Opa!

  • Little Italy will serve up some of the best pasta, gelatos and espressos in town

  • Little Portugal will heat you up with Piri Piri

  • Chinatown is full of Chinese markets and dim sum restaurants

  • Little India on the east side will bring your taste buds alive

  • Leslieville is burgeoning with award-winning restaurants and hangouts

  • Roncesvalles and Bloor West villages offer up Polish and Ukrainian fare – some of the best sauerkraut and plum donuts in the city

A Small Selection of the Many, Many Fabulous Restaurants

  • 360 CN Tower, revolving restaurant, Canadian, Downtown  

  • Scaramouche, breathtaking views, French haute cuisine, north Yorkville  

  • Sotto Sotto, Italian, Yorkville  

  • Harbour 60, Steak, Downtown  

  • Aria, Italian, near Air Canada Centre  

  • Ruby Watchco, Chef Lynn Crawford, seasonal Canadian cuisine, Leslieville  

  • Canoe, Canadian, 54th floor of TD Centre, Financial District  

  • Ki, Japenese, Financial District 

  • Terroni, Italian, 3 locations

  • Frank’s Kitchen, cozy, everything-made-in-house, fine dining, College Street

  • Joso’s, Seafood inspired by the Dalmatian Coast, Yorkville  

Best Views of the City

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  • Have a sunset dinner at the top of the CN tower

  • Take a ferry to Centre Island and see the entire cityscape

  • Sail a boat or take a boat cruise around the Islands

  • Enjoy a martini on The Roof, the Yorkville Park Hyatt’s bar

  • Walk through High Park in spring – complete with mini zoo

  • Play volleyball in the Beach and later enjoy a walk through the shops

  • Stroll the western beach in Etobicoke

  • Rent a bike and go on a cycling tour of the waterfront

  • Go on a scavenger hunt to see strange and interesting statues and sculptures

 

Pamper Yourself

  • The Stillwater Spa is a classic, high-end spa - bring on the slippers and bubbly!!

  • Try out the Blitz Body Spa’s ancient restorative water treatments if you are on the free-spirited, naturalist side

Local Media Captures Who We Are

  • Newstalk 1010 is a great source for the hottest topics in the city

  • Tired of CNN? Be Canadian! Watch CBC or CP24 , and make sure you check The Weather Network for the weather forecast before you venture out!

Eleanor Roosevelt said that “the purpose of life is to live it, to taste it, to experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”

Live your city.  Enjoy Toronto!

3 Simple Valentine's Day Ideas (That Build Greater Intimacy)

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching.  If you still haven't figured out what to do, I’ve got you covered! 

Here are a few low-key ideas to stay connected to your sweetheart without a lot of fuss.

1.       Re-enact your first date. 

Unless your first date was in Paris, more than likely this option is doable.  Perhaps your first date was at a coffee shop, the movies or at a restaurant.  Or perhaps it was a walk in a park.  Whatever the case may be, for added effect, wear the same outfit, get ready separately, and meet at the location, ready to re-live those precious moments.

Why it works:  It re-engages all the senses.  The re-enactment of your first date is likely to spark feelings of excitement and flood back intense memories of the first time you met.  Fall in love all over again!

2.       Cook dinner together. 

Instead of trying to make a last-minute reservation at an expensive restaurant where you’ll be shuffled along for the next seating, why not enjoy creating something delicious together at home?  Try these 30-minute menu ideas:

For dessert, try one of these delectable options:

Warning:  If you sample the dessert first, you may not get to dinner!

Why it works:  Cooking involves communication and working together.  Besides the chop, chop, and “pass the salt”, there is an opportunity to connect about other meaningful things as you work together to create a nourishing (and possibly sensuous) meal. 

3.       Light some candles, open a bottle of wine and get out some questions.  Do this after idea # 1 or #2, or do this as a standalone activity, perhaps after the kids have gone to sleep! 

Read out these questions one by one, or put them on 3 X 5 recipe cards and alternately pick from the deck.

  • What is your most treasured memory?

  • What is your worst memory?

  • Take four (4) minutes each and tell your life story in as much detail as possible.

  • For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

  • What are you most stressed about right now? What could I do to alleviate that stress in any way?

  • What has so far been your favourite sexual experience with me?

  • What would you like to do more of together?

  • What new thing would you like to do together?

  • If I had a crystal ball, what would you most want to know?

  • Alternating, share five (5) things that you love about your partner.

Why it works:  We seldom take the time to really see our partner.  When asking these questions with a curious attitude, we learn something novel, come to appreciate them more, and become bonded to them in a new way.  If we are truly open, we become vulnerable ourselves and that too strengthens our bond. 

One of these options will be sure to generate greater awareness about your partner, rekindle romantic feelings, and bring you closer than ever.  

All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.
— Charles M. Schulz

Want a Red-Hot Valentine's Day? Your Love Language May be the Key to Bliss

Ever wished for a dozen long-stemmed roses and you got a frying pan?  Ever given your spouse a coupon for a massage that sat in a drawer unused?  Understanding your love language and that of your partner may be the key to getting each other’s needs met.

Long-time relationship expert and best-selling author Dr. Gary Chapman writes about Five Love Languages. There isn't a ton of scientific research behind it. And it may sound trite.  Yet it's common sense and it works!  In his books, he writes about the five love languages – five ways that we understand and communicate emotional love.  While we may connect with and enjoy all of them to some degree, he theorizes that we each have a predominant style or two, and we prefer to receive love in the same way that we prefer to give it.

1.      Words of Affirmation:  Spoken affection, “I love you”, appreciation or compliments expresse love.  Words matter.  Cutting words may be hard to forget -- or forgive.

2.      Acts of Service:  Actions, favours, or lending a hand are used to demonstrate love.  Actions hold value.  Breaking a promise says you don’t care.

3.      Receiving Gifts:  Gift giving expresses love.  Thoughtful gifts are symbols of love, regardless of price.  Not taking the time to pick out something of meaning may result in a let-down.

4.      Quality Time:  Spending time with someone expresses love.  Being there makes them feel satisfied and comforted.  Being late or distractions can feel hurtful.

5.      Physical Touch:  Physical touch is affirming, such as holding a hand, touching an arm, backrub, hugs or kisses. Touch makes them feel safe and cared for.   Physical violence is especially abhorrent.

When you know what’s important to your partner, you can eliminate frustration and disappointment, and show your love in ways that they understand, prioritize and need.  It also tells you ways in which you and your partner don’t naturally express love or when their feelings might be unintentionally hurt. 

If your partner’s love language is Acts of Service and yours is Receiving Gifts, you might be less frustrated when you don’t get that sparkling pendant you’ve been hinting at.  You may greater appreciate all of the times he is fixing your plumbing or picking you up from work – and he will love it when you let him how much you’re grateful for these acts of love. 

If your partner’s language is Physical Touch and is all about public displays of affection, you may stretch your Quality Time love language approach, try to be more mindful, and give a surprise hug or reach for a hand while walking down the street. They in turn may very well enjoy the next date you have on the couch, at home, spending quality time together.

Even knowing your own love language can be enough to shift your relationship.  If you’re not sure which is your predominant style, you can take the 20-minute quiz on Dr. Chapman’s site and you will get a report highlighting your love language as well as newsletters with regular tips on showing love in the five different ways.

So, on this upcoming Valentine’s Day, use your newfound knowledge to recharge the spark.  Express your love in a way that is likely to get the best possible reaction.

Not presently in a love match?  What’s great about these languages is that they transfer to other relationships, too.  Use these with your children – young and grown, your parents, or even your business associates, and watch how these relationships flourish.